How to make great 1st Impressions


How to Impress & Sustain 1st Impressions.

Whether it's for a promising job interview, first date, or first chance meeting, making a good impression bodes well for just about every situation.

good impression can mean a huge difference in the way & a great impression can open doors you might not have imagined existed.

How many of us need to impress people to land a fantastic job, get bonded with ideal Girl/Boy romantically & connect with powerful people to succeed in all aspects of life. If not all at least most of us want these, Right?

Now how many of you have had the experiences similar to the 3 scenarios given below.

Scenario 1st

You are in a party, or in a social gathering, or travelling by train or bus, waiting at the airport and you find someone who seems to be the one you have been dreaming about.

You want to talk with that person very badly as your heart is beating very fast, but you hesitate, because of

  1. What if She/he rejects you
  2. How do I start the conversation with her/him
  3. What pick-up line should I use
  4. What if someone sees you talking with her/him

 Scenario 2nd

In an informal occasion, you suddenly come across a celebrity, a person who is big industrialist, someone who can really fund your venture, but you hesitate

  1. What if I make a pitch & lose
  2. Let the crowd thin out, then I will approach
  3. You get a chance, when you suddenly find yourself in the lift alone with the celebrity and you are so long winded in your presentation that the person loses his/her interest

Scenario 3rd

You need a job very badly, you are in an interview, you know that you have the skills & knowledge to make real difference & add real value to the organization

  1. You by showing too desperate kill the chances
  2. When the interviewer gives you another chance to redeem, you flunk
  3. You fail to impress by not asking the right questions
  4. You create a weak impression about you because of answering casually or showing your unpreparedness

In all these 3 scenario you lost opportunity big time that you may never get again

You missed these either by waiting too long or by being ill-prepared to handle the God-Send chance by failing to make the best first impression or created a bad/poor/negative/weak impression.

Now let us look at the psychology of impressing others[those who matter to you & those who can actually have the power to give you what you are looking for] powerfully

The following actions that would definitely make people who matter become curious about you & leave an imprint of positive impression about you.

Off-course you have to put in lot of efforts, learn, create paradigm change in yourself, practice and master these before you start seeing the fruits of your hard & smart work.

1. First identify what are the specific results that you are looking for in the following areas of life

  • Your Professional or Career, e.g., Promotion, Getting Selected in an Important Interview etc
  • Your Business, e.g., Get funding, Get Mentor, Get Connected with Powerful people
  • Your Romantic Life, get the partner you are looking for
  • Your Social Life
  • Your Self Development/Academics etc
  • Identify similarly in other areas
  • 2. Create profiles of all the people you are looking for, who can create a great upward propulsion in the results you are looking for. If possible put specific names of people, for all these profile
  • 3. Identify what are the ways you can connect with them
  • Through Referral
  • By introduction through a powerful mutual contact
  • Meet them socially
  • Create conditions that they approach you themselves
  • Using internet to become visible through writing blogs etc
  • Using the appropriate Social & Professional Media Platform along with point 3[V]
  • Impressing them through your participation in various social-cause & professional forums
  • Making yourself part of the adventure/hobbies that these people are likely to be involved with
  1. Do research, Prepare questions and talking points.Before you go into your first meeting with someone, think about what you want to learn from them and what you want them to learn about you. If you are meeting someone whose work you admire, take the time to find out more about them so you can ask relevant questions and dig deeper than the average fan. For a job interview, research the company ahead of time. If your questions are about specific aspects of the business.
  2. Become crystal clear in your intention of meeting a particular person. Why you want to meet this person & "what do you want from this meeting?
  3. Ensure that your goal of meeting this person, is well within your area of control & not dependent on others or these people.
  4. Create, practice & polish your very own advertisement that which is concise, precise & focused & which tells your prospects clearly, what you want & how they would be benefitted by helping you
  5. Practice, Practice, Practice till you can get this presentation in even in your sleep
  6. Test this presentation with people from whom you can get the feedback of what kind of outcome you can expect real-time
  7. Create few variance to suit & fit the different people, circumstances & scenarios
  8. Learn how to look impressive through whatever resources you have. Make your grooming & appearance spell class
  9. Refine your language to be able to use powerful yet simple words in a story-telling ways[read my blog on this on ]
  10. Identify the stakes of all the meeting, in case you are meeting with pre-fixed schedule, postpone[if possible], in case you are not sure you are in your most exuberant mood. Or learn to get the mood you want in an instant[read my blog on this on ]. Learn to control the time of the meeting as per your advantage   
  11. Become confident by creating a class personality[read my blog on this on ]
  12. Practice becoming a professional[read my blog on this on ]
  13. Practice, Power-Walk, Power-Smile, Power-Handshake, Power-BodyPosture
  14. Learn the art of asking powerful questions[read my blog on this on ]
  15. Learn the art of Small talk[read my blog on this on ]
  16. Create curiosity for them to want more[read my few blogs on powerful impressive conversations on ]
  17. Listen with the intention of learning & understanding
  18. Accept your not knowing, display genuine curiosity to show you as a keen learner
  19. Become Assertive, Express your candid opinions even if they are not popular but you believe that is true [read my blog on this on ]
  20. Develop your signature style of speaking by using pauses, voice modulation & silence with perfect clarity. Avoid using jargons & the words that people may not understand
  21. Be straight-forward & direct, do not beat around the bush & neither be ambiguous, if you want help or need something, ask directly
  22. Let yourself be challenged & develop the confidence of challenging the experts in their own field based on logical curiosity
  23. Learn & practice the art of humor[read my blog on this on ]
  24. Be Genuine & Authentic.Be comfortable with being yourself, do not try be someone else[read my blog on this on ]
  25. The etiquette & manners and how to behave & what to do in different cultures & environments
  26. Be proud of who you are without Ego. Be polite, humble, respectful & courteous
  27. Read Read Read Books, Watch Watch Watch & Listen Listen Listen as much as you can in as many diverse areas you can from the world’s masters
  28. Develop hobbies & interest that brings you in contact with people who are from different backgrounds as well as which makes you challenge yourself continuously & makes you face your fears
  29. Surround yourself with people who are smarter than you in every respect
  30. Make learning & reinventing yourself, your most passionate time-pass
  31. Pay attention to your health by sleeping, eating & relaxing healthy
  32. Volunteer for social causes & making difference to the lives of underprivileged people
  33. Let go of the need for recognition, approval, appreciation, gratefulness etc from others.
  34. Instead start having fun in whatever you do & even in adverse conditions make it a point to see the positives
  35. Find an equal balance between making observations, asking questions, and revealing things about yourself
  36. Develop a fascinating way to answer the questions like, “Where are you from” & “What do you do?”
  37. Ask more interesting questions than “Where are you from?” (or “What do you do?”)
  38. Don’t wait to be introduced, learn the art of remembering name & then address them by their names
  39. Wear something that makes you feel awesome — it'll make you more approachable
  40. Join groups of three or more, especially if they look like they're having fun
  41. Learn to make a graceful exit from a conversation
  42. Don't Talk About Yourself Too Much & Don't Be Afraid to Show Your Flaws & Vulnerabilities
  43. Avoid gossips & talking bad about people & companies at their back
  44. Do-not have the intention of hogging the limelight, instead make other people take center-stage
  45. Add genuine value to the conversation & make it humorous when it is turning into arguments or becoming listless

 How you can impress people in all the immutable need-areas of yours, given separately


 Stop chasing & instead do the following from the point 1 below onwards, along with doing as appropriate in 48 points above

  1. Use your eyes, when you you catch her gaze, don’t stare so hard that she feels vulnerable, make your look convey that she has caught your attention but you haven’t fallen for her yet and you are not some desperado. If you want to look at her, don’t be brazen in your approach. Merely glance at herevery now and then.
  2. Smile a confident yet mischievous smile
  3. If you do get the opportunity to talk with her or around her, try not to compliment her too much or show desperation to be introduced to her
  4. Try to keep the conversation about your opinions and things that could impress her like your hobbies or things you have passion for. It is okay to be slightly self-opinionated and passionate
  5. Try to make her laugh, but do not try too hard, do not overdo the funny part too much, too often.
  6. Learn to laugh wholeheartedly & naturally UNLESS, you are trying to display your sarcasm with a purpose to make something serious looks unimpressive
  7. Learn the ping-pong art of teasing playfully, without being mean or putting someone down[see my art of humor blog & dirty talks]
  8. Learn the classic way of using double meaning loaded words intelligently & respectfully
  9. Learn the art of flirting playfully & discreetly, without being too serious about it. Put the pressure & then release it
  10. Learn to share instances in story telling way using KISS principal, that shows your vulnerable parts & how you can laugh at yourself
  11. Be fun to be around, as groups of people always get more attention than a single you skulking in a corner
  12. Be bold, get to know about her through her friends & let it be known subtly in her friend circle that your intent of seriously perusing her
  13. Try to bump into her in many different places[do not get into annoying stalking or any other filmy tactics]
  14. Be, feel & look cheerful
  15. Apologize if you ever cross the line of decency anytime
  16. Do not keep pursuing her if after reasonable efforts, you do not get appropriate reciprocation from her
  17. Practice good hygiene, dress comfortable, be yourself
  18. Create many interesting interests that should keep you away & involved, time to time
  19. Learn to ask intelligent questions based on your research
  20. Make her feel comfortable around you
  21. Start being the great, amazing and awesome guy that she really wants
  22. Do not be predictable, always surprise her with your spontaneity
  23. Plan your date in advance, even if you are meeting for the first time. If you can afford it, meet her in style
  24. Escalate in 5th gear on the fast lane, once you have caught her fancy. Lead Her From the First Second On
  25. Talk To Her Like Someone You'd Like To Date, Not Like A Friend
  26. Don't Try Too Hard To Impress Her, Lead An Interesting Life & let that impress her
  27. Do not brag about yourself 
  28. Do not use Overly Suggestive Pickup Lines  
  29. Trying to create an impression of your macho-ness, based on the faulty yet popular perceptions
  30. Do not know what to talk about with her, choose from the following topics
  31. Talk About Something That You Have In Common
  32. Tell Her What You Like About Her
  33. Talk About Her Favorite Vacation Destination
  34. Talk About A Childhood Memory
  35. Ask Her Who She Looks Up To
  36. Talk About Your Future Together
  37. Ask Her About Her Old Hobbies
  38. Ask Her What Her Definition Of Romance Is
  39. Talk About Her Goals Outside Of The Relationship
  40. Ask Her Who She Doesn’t Want To Become Like
  41. Ask Her When She Feels Happiest
  42. This is a indicative list create your own list as per your comfort area
  43. How to Impress the Interviewers in Job interview

 Do research about the company, their culture, their challenges, their vision & future of the market they are in

  1. Talk to the people you would be working for, if possible
  2. Learn about the best practices that the global best uses
  3. Learn about why you are most suitable for the job, match your skills and the projects you have handled
  4. Research about the emerging trends & the existing & future competitions that are eroding this companies markets & walking away with their customers & what would be your suggestions in overcoming these
  5. Research the interview questions asked frequently on the internet, then prepare your reply which is totally based on your real-time exposure by handling projects through both failures & success as well as the lessons learned
  6. Prepared questions what would show your interviewers that you have put in the efforts for the points 1 to 4 and that you know what you are talking about
  7. Get the inside scoop, see if you can get some inside information on the company and its employees. Check LinkedIn, Facebook, and your college alumni network to see if you know anyone who can share insider information with you
  8. Prepare & Share how you’re a great fit for the job, the company & the future
  9. In spite of all your preparation, you may goof-up big time, many time in job interviews. Do not panic, but create a plan that you learn & redeem
  10. Whatever you share, do not bull-shit or just tell vague, ensure all that you share about you is backed up with facts, figures & details
  11. Ask hard penetrating questions with respect to show that you are serious about the job, your career & future
  1. How to enroll powerful mentors/financers/other people in the position of influencing what you want - [read my blog on how to enroll mentors ]


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