How to detect if you Date is still emotionally attached with his/her ex
As per the statistics more than 30% people have multiple marriages & that means having multiple exes
Many times we come across people who are so magnetic, charming & sophisticated, that we fail to notice the danger signs of them pointing to their getting into a new relationship without their being healed completely, and especially their being still romantically or emotionally attached with their exes
This happens when they are getting into a relationship with you on rebound, either to fill time or to wait till their exes comes back to them or to take revenge.
In any case it is going to be emotionally traumatic to deal with other people's emotionally clinging with you when they are themselves emotionally weak.
So how do you notice the signs & prevent you from getting hurt in the future, some signs to pay attention on are
- 1.Your date is comfortable talking his/her ex without avoiding, bypassing or sidetracking issues
- 2.Your date talk about his/her ex in past sense
- 3.Your ex does not compare you with his ex
- 4.There has been a good time gap since he/she separated with your ex
- 5.Your date neither talks about his/her ex in a loving manner or with anger, sorrow or regret
- 6.Your date only talks about his/her ex, when you initiate the topic
- 7.He/she gives you full attention, time & care
- 8.He/she does not take you to places that were part of his/her life with their ex & tell you about it
- 9.When you ask about his/her ex he talks in an manner that reassures you that there is no more baggage
- 10.He/she does not have or keep or show any memorabilia with him/her of their ex
- 11.You sense there in no contact or a very limited contacts if kids are involved & the contact is only meant for them
- 12.Your date when asked, tells you how he/she overcame the separation & how he/she is free from their ex.
- 13.You can also feel that there is no more hurt in your date about his/her ex
- 14.They are no more connected on any media professionally or on social ones & neither with his/her family, there is any contact
- 15.Your date's responses & reactions to your all above questions & any other doubts about his/her ex is always same & consistent
- 16.You feel peaceful talking with him/her about his/her ex