Are you Emotionally Mature Enough to begin a new relationship
We all need many gratifications emotionally.
But when we are totally dependent on & base our fulfillment on others for our happiness through the following, it becomes the biggest hurdle in our life
- 1.We depend on others For their approval
- 2.We Have almost a pathetic need of appreciation & admiration from others
- 3.We Expect others to make us complete
- 4.We Based our happiness on others doing/not doing something
- 5.We Are concerned about what others think of us
- 6.We Try to please & satisfy everyone even at the cost of denying your own needs
- 7.We Look for signs in others, which are actually not present, but we see the indications of
- I.Others not liking you
- II.Others not approving of you
- III.Others disagreeing with you
- IV.Others mocking at you
- V.Other Ignoring you
- VI.Others doubting your sincerity All these you create in the figment of your imagination & thry become your truth – just by distorting/generalizing/twisting their words, actions, gestures, tone and expressions & many times your past experience etc etc
- 8.You look to your partner for constant reassurance and validation
- 9.Do you feel abandoned if your partner is not available
- 10.Are you afraid your partner will not be there for you?
- 11.Do you get upset if your partner doesn't react in a certain way
- 12.Does it bother you if you are not included in your partner's plans
- 13.Do you get jealous of things that he/she is doing without you
- 14.Do you constantly doubt & have suspicion whether you partner is being honest with you
- 15.Is your love relationship is the center of your world & you either don't care or ignore your relationship with friends or family or your kids
Plus if we have not yet healed from the following
- 1.If we had relationship break-ups in the past
- 2.If we are still attached with our ex & also keep thinking about them
- 3.If we have even a faint hope of them coming back to our life
- 4.If we are planning revenge with our ex
- 5.If we have had Emotional traumatic childhood experience
- 6.If we have had Physical & Emotional abuse in the past
- 7.We feel very anxious
- 8.We are very insecure
- 9.We have low self-esteem & self-image
Then we are not emotionally or mentally mature enough to go for a new relationship to make our life blissful, satisfactory, happy & contented.
In fact presence of all these would make life hell for your partner & his/her loved ones.
It would certainly be painful to you & your loved ones for sure.
It is alright that during a difficult time, we need emotional support from others maybe more than usual.
It is also alright to seek help from others, but being overly dependent on others by being too demanding, clingy, annoying, fragile, possessive, vindictive, getting hurt easily, sulking would definitely kill all your loved relationships.
An emotionally healthy & mature person would
- 1.Love him/her
- 2.Accept him/her fully
- 3.Be comfortable with being alone
- 4.Be self-reliant on many things emotional & other
- 5.Be secure or confident with themselves
- 6.Will live their life as per his/her dreams & passion