POINTS TO DISCUSS & Clarify DURING COURTSHIP
If You Ignore Asking These It Will Lead To Disaster, These Are Few Reasons Why Marriages Are Collapsing And There Is High Divorce Rate In Our Generation Because Of Faulty Courtship
- 1.Finances – This Is Very Important, Please Clarify That Is
- I.Who Earns
- II.How Much Each Will Contribute
- III.How To Save
- IV.In Case Of Break-Up The Financial Sharing
- V.Responsibilities In Lieu Of Financial Contribution
- VI.Liabilities To Be Shared, To Be Done Individually
- VII.Inheritance In Case You Are Not There
- 2.Relational
- Work Life Balance How Do We Balance Our Jobs And Home, Especially If Both Work & Have Conflicting Hours
- Decision Making – What Is The Wife's Role? What Is The Husband's Role?
- What Role Do In-Laws Would Play Our Marriage?
- Who Will To Handle Disagreements With Parents Or In-Laws
- Care Of Elderly Parents And Grandparents – Any Plan To Bring In Parents Or Grandparents To Live With You?
- How Important Is The Extended Family, Who Are Part Of Extended Family
- How To Resolve Disagreements And Offenses?
- Division Of Responsibility In Home – I.E. Emptying Garbage, Keeping The Car Clean, Yard Work, Housework, Cooking, Shopping, Etc.
- 3.Children
- How Many?
- Who Disciplines The Children When Both Parents Are Present?
- Should Grandparents Discipline Their Grandchildren?
- What If Older Children Disagree With Some Of Your Beliefs?
- What Is The Father's Role In Home Lessons Or Tutorial And Homework?
- What Is The Mother's Role In Home Lessons Or Tutorial And Homework?
- 4.Cultural Differences - Views On Cultural Values, Ethics, And Beliefs.
These And Many More Should Be Discussed During Your Courtship.
- 5.Basic Values – If Crossed Will Make You Angry Etc Etc
- 6.Physical Intimacy Questions
- 7.Resolving Conflict
- 8.If Fight How We Will Fight
- 9.Vacations & Breaks
