How to deal with the pain after breakup
Please understand that the pain that you are going to feel this time is going to be more painful than ever, the more attached you were with that person the more pain it is going to for you.
Then please also accept that it is going to take hell of a lot of time to get over the pain & there is no short-cut to this.
You must go through the complete grief cycle, but no one can hurry that process & this process time period is different for different people.
Now the essentials of dealing with pain, besides accepting the above points
- 1.Your ex is not the end of the world for you, there is a more beautiful world out there. But first you must heal & overcome your grief complete to step into this world
- 2.If you keep holding onto a relationship that is draining, that makes you feel bad about yourself, hurts you is actually demeaning to you
- 3.If your ex does not want you, good riddance, why the hell you want him/her
- 4.Understand when you entered the relationship & when you ended, did you come out a better or stronger person or a person with lower self-esteem
- 5.Also identify what this relationship taught you about yourself
- 6.What were your mistakes in this relationship & your role objectively without blaming yourself
- 7.Get help openly, you will also find out now who are your real well-wishers. Your parents, your siblings, your children, your friends etc etc
- 8.Don't rush into a new relationship
- 9.If you enter into a new relationship date few then only after a reasonable time go for courtship
- 10.Take a break/long vacation
- 11.Get into charitable/helping people who are really needy & underprivileged
- 12.Exercise & Meditate
- 13.Enroll in new courses, learn new skills
- 14.Join dance clubs etc
- 15.Participates in activities like mountaineering, trekking etc etc
Besides these read the other articles on this topics for additional tips on how deal with your pain & then choose the ones that suits & work for you best
