How to deal with your emotions when you discover your partner cheated on you
Various surveys put the figure of people cheating on their partner like 60% of being men & around 40% of it being women.
So if you are very very lucky you will have a life free from this shock, pain & torture.
You will have the following very strong negative feelings flooding your mind, body and soul to at times making you totally paralyzed mentally & emotionally to affect your physical functioning as well
1.Anger
2.Shock
3.Denial
4.Blame
5.Guilt
6.Panic
7.Shame
8.Sense of Betrayal
9.Total hopelessness
10.Feeling of being unworthy
11.Feeling of ending life
12.Feeling of being totally alone'
13.Revenge
14.Depression
15.Numbness Or emptiness
16.Sadness
17.Grief
18.Extreme sense of loss
19.Fighting with God
20.Making the partner of your partner pay the price to get your partner back
21.If you were not having a good relationship, sometime you may feel a sense of freedom & relief
What to do, how to deal with this situation
1.Don't fight the emotions, feelings & moods you get.
2.Just feel these feelings in full that you are experiencing
3.If you can accept that they are natural great
4.Do nothing if you feel like doing nothing
5.Weep, cry, express your pain openly
6.Don't try to alone, unless it gives you a sense of calm
7.Get back to your normal daily routine as soon as possible
8.Do not pressurize yourself if works get pending & piling up
9.Want to mourn, mourn the loss
10. If your family's & friend's support is not helping go to a qualified counselor
11.A cheater is always a cheater, unless it is due to some unique reason not fault of your partner, therefore you have to think actively for moving out & moving on in future
12. Have a meaningful discussion with your partner in calm manner, announce your intentions, get it out of your heart
13.Once you decide to separate, do not dwell on this decision
14.Then break all your family, social, professional Contacts, especially if they remind you of your partner & gives you pain
15.Burn throw away all the things connected with your partner
16.Block your partner on social, media, phone & email etc
17.Do not think about going for revenge
18.Start getting busy in new social & professional circles
19.Learn new hobbies & interest
20.Go for a break & vacation
21.Find out what were your mistakes that lead to the infidelity , learn from them & move on keeping these in mind
